*THE MOMENT BETWEEN YOU AND REMARKABLE*
While in college, BJ planned to major in engineering. But, when it became too difficult to manage family, a full-time job, and several difficult courses at once (physics, calculus 3, and differential equations), he wondered if his dream was unrealistic and switched his major to business. After graduating with a Bachelors degree in Business Administration and working for a few years in the business field, he has been left wondering. Did he make the right choice? Does he really want to have to schmooze people, acheive sales quotas, appease unhappy customers, etc. for the rest of his life? Or should he pursue engineering...could that be the answer to finding a job that could be more meaningful and fulfilling? After much deliberation, he applied for a masters program in software engineering.
I found this quote by Seth Godin on Jeanette's blog (Crunchy on the Inside) and felt the reality of that moment...that moment we were in:
“That moment when you are sitting right on the edge of something daring and scary and creative and powerful and perhaps wonderful… and you blink and take a step back.
That’s the moment. The moment between you and remarkable....”
He applied for the masters program and was accepted. He wanted to change careers. But, the inevitable doubts and concerns started to creep in. I'll admit it. We did blink. We did take a step back. We were at the threshold of something big and exciting and terrifying and potentially incredible, and we stopped, paused.
I tend to think it is okay to blink and step back as long as we don't allow our fears to rule our decisions. We thought. We prayed for guidance. We weighed the pros and cons. We prepared. Then, we decided. BJ will begin the program on September 5th.
So, here's to following your dreams. Someone please remind me of this when I am exhausted from holding it all together at home all the time while he juggles work and school. Yes, I have grown accustomed to having BJ home for dinner every night, working as a team to get the girls to bed, having time to just sit and watch a movie together.... I realize that our lifestyle will change. I worry that my presence will not be able to make up for his absence in the girls lives. But, I want him to have a profession that he finds stimulating, challenging and rewarding. Well, it is past midnight so enough of my ramblings for now....
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
no regrets...
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Oh, Mindy...I can definitely sympathize with you! When Jeff was called to be Bishop he was only 6 months into his 2-year MBA program, working fulltime, and we had two kids. I'm not going to tell you that it was easy, and even now when he's "just" bishoping and done with school it is still hard to not always have him home...but we have grown closer not farther apart and I feel like I am such a better person because I have learned (been forced!) to sacrifice :) Sending prayers and hugs your way! (and Congratulations to BJ)
Oh Mindy - you gave me the chills. I know how he's struggled and what you guys have gone through. I know what it's like to try to keep it together on your own (except we only had one, but we didn't have any family around either). You know we'll be here for you guys to help in any way that we can! Good luck! Love you!!!
Mindy, you and I have talked quite a bit about the last two years while Cory has been a full-time student. You can do it girl because you have a strength that you've only scraped the surface of. I will be praying for you and BJ and your new adventure exactly as I will be as Cory begins law school on Sept. 5th. Us wives and moms...we're a team! I'll miss you!
Software engineering!!??!!??!! How fun! That is awesome. If BJ ever has any questions, just have him ask Eric.
I know! When he graduates he can get a job working for the church up here. Then you guys can live by us!
I love that I will have another wife to commiserate with especially since we both have a hard road ahead. It will be so worth it though! Which program is BJ going into?
Thanks girls for your supportive comments. Your strength inspires and encourages me.
Becky & Holly, I know what each of you have been through and you are each amazing to me!
Tress...that would be fun wouldn't it?!? BJ has a really good friend here who has been answering his questions/giving advice, but I am sure he would love to get any tips Eric might want to send his way!
Kelli, good luck to Cory in law school too. That is going to be a crazy adventure for sure. We will have to commiserate :) Are you guys there yet?
Well, thanks again everyone for your support!
Mindy, I have to chime in and say hi and I'm thinking of your family! It's so hard when our dh's have to spend so much time providing for our families,they have to find some happiness in what they are doing and it is a process of learning what is best for each of us, I still don't know what I want to "be" when I grow up. Dan's been wanting a change lately and just the thought of it has been a little stressful and it wouldn't be a new career, just a different job probably even at the same company! So, I can only imagine what you guys are going through. It will be so worth it in the end.
Min - I don't even know what to say besides YOU CAN DO IT! :)
And I know you haven't posted in a while but I wanted to say to you today...HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I'm glad you were born!! :)
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